Another Post on Authenticity

Tuesday, October 6, 2015


It happens all the time. At least it does to me. I read other blogs and reviews and start to compare myself. Oooh, I want to write as beautifully as that person. I should be more humorous. I should tell inspiring life stories. Suddenly I want to change myself.

But that isn't the point of blogging. The whole reason I started this blog was to put my thoughts down. Sure, I get my thoughts out when I write novels, but it's not the same thing. Blogging is about sharing pieces of myself. Changing myself defeats the whole purpose.

Don't get me wrong; it's good to try and change for the better. Sometimes it's good to imitate other people's good behaviors. I'm talking about something different, though. I'm sure some of my fellow bloggers know what I'm talking about (or maybe it's just me). I think I'm not good enough, or my writing isn't good enough. I look at my reader stats and followers (or lack thereof) and dismally wonder how to become better.

to be fearlessly authentic in every area of my life - love, relationships, romance, style, home, travel, money - to live without fear:

Then I remember writing posts about being authentic. I remember how I promised myself that I wouldn't care what other people think. Apparently that didn't work too well. Yet again, I've fallen into the same struggle of writing to please other people. There's nothing wrong with wanting to make your readers happy; but if that's the only reason you write about certain things, then maybe you should stop and take a look at your blog.

Once more, I'm deciding to be an authentic blogger. If people don't follow me, fine. If other people write better than I do, fine. It doesn't matter if people judge my likes and dislikes, or my writing, or anything. I'd rather get a few followers while I'm being myself than get 1000 followers while I'm trying to be something I'm not.

So what say you? Will you join with me in being an authentic blogger?

Emily
xoxo

10 comments:

  1. This very post is refreshingly authentic! I will answer your call to also be an authentic blogger as best as I can! <3 <3 <3

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  2. I LOVE THIS. And I'm so glad someone finally addressed it. I often start regretting the position I've put myself in with my blog; why wouldn't I have done a book blog, or a life blog, or something else? Why couldn't I have started out being more clever and a better writer? But I have to remember that blogging is all about putting myself and my ideas out there and having fun with it, not being a certain thing to make people and happy such. Thanks so much for this, and keep it up! <3

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    1. Thank you, so much! Yeah, the theme of my blog is something I wonder about, too. So many blogging tips say that you need to pick a blog theme, like writing or recipes, and stick to it. I say, why??

      Thanks, Aimee! :)

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  3. This is really great. I too have felt this before when I see bloggers that are more wacky and humorous and I wonder if I'm not funny enough or I don't have enough crossed out words or ones in parentheses or in caps. I wonder if I'm too serious since I tend to be a more serious person in general. I needed this. ^ ^

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    1. The funny thing is one of the biggest areas that I struggle with. But being serious is a good thing! The serious people are the ones who accomplish a lot! :)

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  4. Ahh, I do get this. I DO. I spent a lot of time when I started blogging trying to figure out the best way to blog. For me, though, I had to find my voice. WHICH TOOK A WHILE!! And I did change myself a bit to fit with the style I enjoyed reading. *nods* But it's very important to blog true to yourself, or else things get exhausting. And just remember no one can blog quite like YOU are blogging. so it does make you special and unique too! :D I compare myself to other successful bloggers aaaall the time though, so the struggle is real. omg IT IS.
    Thanks for stopping by @ Paper Fury!

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    1. Exactly. And I think that ultimately the best blogs are the ones where the writer is being authentic.

      Thanks for stopping by!

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  5. This post is awesome. I think it's something I really struggle with, too, and it's super easy for a new writer/blogger to fall into the trap of comparing yourself to others then trying to copy whatever it is you think they're better at. Thanks for the reminder that it's ok to just be you.

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Thanks for taking the time to comment--I read each one :)